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We get lots of emails at www.jennyandjoey.com from members and fans asking us how best to approach a partner about expanding their range of sexual activities to include something new. There are plenty of reasons why people are afraid to broach the subject of adding something different, and most of them are bad. Thanks to the internet, women have more access to porn than ever before. They always had the access, but because of cultural barriers, they were just afraid to exercise it. Back in the day, even men had to work up the gall to walk through the swinging doors at the video rental shop to where they kept the “dirty’ movies. Then, after selecting the video they wanted to see, they were subjected to the additional humiliation of letting the clerk at the till (which would be a young woman, just as sure as hell) know that you wanted to see “Big Booty Ho’s Taking It Up The Ass.” If you made it out of there with your dignity intact, you still had to find the time in the next 24 hours to jerk off a few times without getting caught by the wife. Wow…how much does that scenario suck?! Now, before we fast forward to the porn world of today, let’s get a few things straight. Sexually speaking, both mentally and in terms of physical sexual response, men and women are nearly identical. It is our culture that has made women keep quiet about just how “dirty” their sexual thoughts are. (When I say dirty in this context, I don’t mean it in a bad way, but instead in a way that indicates a wide range of sexual fantasies and desires. In fact, a range that is similar to, or perhaps even bigger than, that of men). Now, accepting this as a fact, let’s look at why both men and women are so unwilling to bring these desires up with their partners. At the top of the list is fear. For example, a man might not want to voice his desires because he thinks his partner will feel he’s a sick pervert. At the very same moment, his wife or girlfriend is holding back because she doesn’t want him to think she’s a slut. So instead, both of them hold their tongues and put up with the same old missionary fuck every Saturday night before they turn out the lights and think about what they really wanted to do. Eventually, they both start thinking about that person at the office that smiles at them every morning, and how maybe they would like to do some of the stuff they had in mind. Sound familiar? Trust me when I tell you, that your partner is just as interested in livening things up as you are. If you can’t take the plunge and actually talk openly about your desires, then try to initiate change by actively exploring new options in the bedroom. If you want to see if your wife would be interested in anal, try paying some attention to her ass and see how she responds. To use this example, you might try sneaking your tongue down while you’re eating her pussy, and give a few licks to her asshole.(And by the way, if you’re not eating her pussy at all, it’s time to start, because that is almost certainly going to be an area that she wants you to work on! Conversely ladies, if you’re not sucking his cock, you need to, and make every effort to swallow. Even if you need to have a candy in your mouth to help with the taste. Swallowing is very important to men because it’s an intimate demonstration of sexual acceptance. Failing to give attentive oral sex — by either partner — is probably the biggest source of dissatisfaction that eventually makes partners “wander”). If she responds positively to a few licks, then you might try a well lubricated fingertip in her ass. In this fashion you can work your way up to a new activity, or at least start a discussion. Remember, sex has to be fun for both of you, so if she finds your cock too big to have anal sex comfortably, then that’s just the way it is. I love to have Joey finger my ass or use a small or medium dildo in my ass when he’s eating my pussy, but his cock is just too thick for comfort. The women you see in porn that are taking huge cocks up their asses are not a fair sample of the real world wives and girlfriends out there. In the end — no pun intended — the worst thing that can happen if you suggest something new is that your partner can say no, but if your don’t ask or try, there will never be a yes. Kisses! - Jenny